“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. This is a profound mystery – but I am talking about Christ and the church.” Ephesians 5:31-32 (NIV)

Every couple wants a perfect marriage. The truth is that this is a recipe for frustration. Why? Because you didn’t marry a perfect person, and you’re not so hot yourself! It’s really not about perfection but purpose. It’s about fulfilling God’s purpose in your marriage. Instead of focusing on perfection in marriage, shift your focus to finding God’s purpose for marriage. While the Bible offers many purposes including sex, children, companionship, pleasure, completeness, fruitfulness, and protection, the ultimate purpose is found in our key passage. God’s ultimate purpose in marriage is to reflect His love for us! Marriage should be a portrait, a picture of God’s love.

When others look at your marriage, do they get a glimpse of God’s love for them? If you dig into this passage, in its context, you’ll see God’s desire for your marriage and mine. He starts with a general command to both husband and wife in verse 21. It’s that dreaded “S” word our culture shuns today, but it’s vital to the health of a marriage relationship because it puts us both on an equal playing field. He says, “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” One translation renders the word submit as “yield.” Do you do that? In what ways are you yielding to the needs or desires of your mate? Notice the attitude that prompts our submission to one another –

“… out of reverence for Christ.” This is a voluntary yielding of our wills to the will of another out of love and respect for Christ. It’s the kind of submission we see in Jesus toward His Father when He said, “…I seek not to please Myself but Him who sent Me.” John 5:30 (NIV)

If my marriage is to fulfill God’s purpose to reflect His love, then I need His presence indwelling me. When Christ indwells me, He can be at the center of my marriage. Paul calls this a profound mystery! It won’t lead to a perfect marriage, but it will help us to fulfill God’s purpose and experience all that He designed in uniting our lives as one!

Rediscover the purpose in your marriage by renewing your vows with hundreds of other couples this weekend at a Woodlands Church campus near you as I wrap up our series I Do, Take Two – Rekindling the Passion in Your Marriage!

  1. Healing Our Marriage Forgiveness Brokeness and Restoring Love For eachother…

    My wife and i John & Cynthia Rosales we have been married almost a year and we have faced so much from hurt and bitterness…

    She has come from two broken marriages and hurt in prior relationship physically she has been through a bout with ovarian cancer through it all she has been a survivor and in that I have felt a passionate love for her. She is strong willed and I am drawn to it in her. We both go to Faith Family church in Victoria we have been in counseling as well.

    During our marriage I have struggled to have a real sense of her security in me and allow me to play a husbandly role honorably giving partnership not just the “authority sense of the word”. I’m not looking by no means a controlling position rather just the simple respect and affection as a husband and partner.

    I have been married once and in and out of relationships myself struggling to feel secure myself. I was always guilty of how I left my first marriage and it carried with me throughout time however as I grew closer to God I know I did my best and still honor my children and former spouse in regards as a mother. I have asked for forgiveness for my past mistakes openly and with God. I’m wanting our relationship and marriage to make it and work together in every way.

    I want ask for prayer and healing from bitterness and strife and every measure of deceit from the enemy coming at my spouse from fear and also from prior relationship memories hers and mine and how its trying to come against us. I have been giving and honest and not hiding or keeping or doing wrong against her or our relationship. I want us I want our marriage to grow and be a blessing testimony.

    I’m trusting God to heal hardened hurting hearts and thoughts…

    Whatever God is doing to heal and restore us I’m believing for amen still however I’m asking for prayer for John and Cynthia Rosales In Jesus Name Amen

    Bless you

  2. Dear Pastor Shook, may the blessings of God continue to keep and guide you and your family.
    I saw the daily devotional book advertised with the inclusive of the coffee mug. I am very interested in the devotional book and the addition of the coffee, which I can use at my office.
    Please do let me know how I can obtain the items.
    Thank you and be blessed.
    Sister in Christ,
    Cynthia

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