“… for the LORD is your security. He will keep your foot from being caught in a trap.” Prov. 3:26 (NLT)
When God restores the power in our relationships, He turns on the light of security. As with love, the need for security is met differently in a husband and wife. While only God can meet our deepest needs for love and security, He designed us to meet those needs in one another’s lives as well.
For a man, the light of security is turned on with encouragement. The male ego is the most fragile thing on the planet! Men need encouragement from their closest relationships! The Bible says,
“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.” 1 Thessalonians 5:11 (NIV)
While encouragement is mutual, men need it more than most women to feel secure. A wife has a powerful tool at her disposal with words of encouragement. Simple statements like, “I appreciate how hard you work to provide for our family” fulfill that need for security in a husband’s heart. A wife is the most significant one from whom a man seeks encouragement. He needs to know that he has pleased you. When you let him know, it meets that need for encouragement like no one else can!
Security for women comes more often when they feel protected and safe. Inside every woman is a little girl that longs for a prince. She needs to feel protected. A wife feels secure when her husband is walking with God and leading her in prayer. The Bible says,
“Reverence for the LORD gives confidence and security to a family.” Proverbs 14:26 (TEV)
How protected and safe does your wife feel? God restores the power for the light of security when we pray for our wives and with them. Ask her what you may pray for in her life and take her by the hand as you pray with her.
Don’t get caught in the trap of thinking your spouse knows how you feel. Turn on the light of security. Practice the truth of encouraging one another and praying together and see how quickly God will restore passion and intimacy in your marriage.