“And the LORD God said, ‘It isn’t good for man to be alone; I will make a companion for him, a helper suited to his needs.” Genesis 2:18 (TLB)
One of the Biblical purposes of a marriage is companionship. Companionship is God’s design for a husband and wife, to complement one another. But, when the power goes out in a marriage, companionship goes dark and is replaced with conflict. We begin living isolated lives and drift apart in the darkness. We may be bedmates, but we miss being soulmates. The trouble may be as simple as not understanding how we meet that God-given need in each other’s lives.
For men, the light of companionship is turned on with respect. The Bible expresses it like this,
“But every husband must love his wife as he loves himself, and wives should respect their husbands.” Ephesians 5:33 (GWT)
In a survey where men were asked if they would prefer to be loved or respected, most men chose respect. It’s how God wired men differently from women. Wives demonstrate their love for their husbands the most by respecting them and honoring them above others. It’s been said that a complaining wife is a public rebuke to her husband. He feels disrespected when you complain to others about him. Your respect meets the need for real companionship in his life.
Companionship for a wife is best met when she feels connected to her husband. She needs to know that you cherish her and desire her more than any other woman, that you put her needs above your own. The Bible encourages husbands to,
“… love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.” Ephesians 5:25 (NIV)
A husband’s job is not to make his wife happy or “fix her”. Her greatest desire is to be understood, to feel connected with you. An Old Testament prophet named Amos asked a rhetorical question considering companionship.
“Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction?” Amos 3:3 (NLT)
Practice showing respect and understanding one another. It will meet the need of companionship in your marriage so you can walk together in the same direction.