“The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.” 1 John 1:5 (NIV2011)
This week, we’ve seen how God restores power when the light goes out in our marriages. He turns on the light of His love, the light of security and the light of companionship. Each of those basic needs are met uniquely in the life of a husband and wife. When we understand how to meet those needs in each other’s lives and put it into practice, we are living in the light as God is in the light and we experience fellowship with one another.
Power failures occur with the storms and routines of life. When we become disconnected from the source, the lights can go out. The light of love can be extinguished by the darkness of lust. Love is about giving, but lust is all about getting. The more you love the more fulfilled you feel. The more you lust, the more empty you feel. Lust is addictive. You want more, but more never satisfies. Lust is fueled today with online pornography. You can protect yourself from this threat just as Job did in the Bible. He said,
“I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman.” Job 31:1 (NIV)
Train your eyes to look the other way just as you would if you came upon someone welding or a solar eclipse. You look the other way because you know the permanent damage that can be done by looking at them. The Bible says this is the same way with lust.
“But each one is tempted when he is carried away and enticed by his own lust. Then when lust is conceived, it gives birth to sin; and when sin is accomplished, it brings forth death.” James 2:14, 15 (NASB)
Although not exclusive to men, lust is every man’s battle. It’s not a sin to be tempted, but temptation can lead to deception. Deception will lead to disobedience, and disobedience will lead to death. Just as the darkness of lust can eclipse the light of love, the darkness of lies can turn out the light of security. The Bible says,
“If we claim to have fellowship with Him and yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live out the truth.” 1 John 1:6 (NIV)
All relationships are built on trust and require truth and honesty. Avoid deception and keep your relationship transparent. Refuse to participate in anything you would not want your spouse to know about.
Finally, the light of companionship can be lost in the darkness of fear. Fear takes the oxygen out of a relationship. It’s the opposite of love. The Bible puts it like this,
“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” 1 John 4:18 (NIV)
If the light of love, security and companionship has been threatened by the darkness of lust, lies and fear in your relationship, God offers fresh power to restore your marriage. The Bible says,
“The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.” 1 John 1:5 (NIV)
No matter how dark it is in your relationship, God’s light will overcome the darkness! The New Living Translation puts it like this:
“The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness can never extinguish it.”
That’s hope for every marriage! God’s light overcomes the darkness! The darkness can never extinguish His light! Turning toward the light begins with humility and confession. Just a few verses down, the Bible says,
“If we confess our sins to Him, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all wickedness.” 1 John 1:9 (NLT)
Confession connects us to the power source that restores power when the lights go out. His grace overcomes the darkness in our lives and brings us into the light of His love to restore fellowship with Him and one another.