“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. This is a profound mystery – but I am talking about Christ and the church.”
Ephesians 5:31-32 (NIV)
Everyone loves a mystery. When I was a kid, I used to love to play the game Clue. You remember Clue, don’t you? It’s the game where you have to solve a mystery murder. Who did it? In what room? And with what kind of weapon? The Bible calls marriage a mystery. Most men would agree! They would say, “My wife is the mystery! I can’t figure her out!” Thankfully, the Bible gives us some clues to understand the mystery of how to have a lasting love in marriage. The mystery is how one plus one equals one! How does that work? How do the two become one? That is the profound mystery Paul is talking about in our key passage. It’s a mystery because God designed our marriages to be a portrait of His love. Let’s examine the clues that will help us solve the mystery. The first clue is found in the kitchen. There’s a book that says sex starts in the kitchen. The idea is that, if you want the fire hot at night, you’ve got to light the pilot in the morning. The problem is that men are like microwaves. They can instantly turn on and off; but, women are more like crockpots. They have to warm up gradually. So here’s what God says to men in Ephesians 5:25-26 from the Message. “Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church – a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything He does and says is designed to bring the best out of her.” Did you see the first two clues? One has to do with your words, and the other has to do with your actions. “…His words evoke her beauty….” and “…everything he does and says is designed to bring out the best in her….” Wow! Talk about filling your emotional tank! Take a moment today and reflect on your words and actions! Have you lost that loving feeling? Love is something you do. Get intentional. Speak with loving words that are genuine, and begin to do loving actions. The feelings will catch up, and the reward will be well worth the effort!