Love the Lord your God … with all your soul. Mark 12:30 (NIV)

The word soul in the Bible is “psyche.” We get our word psychology from it. Your soul comprises your emotions, feelings, attitudes, and will. It’s who you are under the skin. God says that we are to love Him with all our soul and we are to love our neighbors as ourselves. Feelings can be challenging to handle. How do you handle your feelings? If you want to take your relationships to another level, here are a few tips for dealing with your feelings that I’ve found helpful:

  • Don’t be afraid to express your emotions. Stuffing them can turn into bitterness. God created us with feelings to express our love to Him and others. We feel joy, anger, hurt, fear, sorrow, and gratitude. Healthy relationships create a safe place to express your emotions without a judgment call.
  • Don’t run from emotions. Feelings are neither right nor wrong. It’s what you do with them that make the difference. For a long time, I would look for a way out rather than confronting how I felt or, worse, sitting and working through how someone else was feeling. It made me feel uncomfortable. The reason we feel comfortable running to God instead of running from Him is because we know He loves us. The psalmist called God his refuge, his hiding place, his strong tower, and a mighty fortress! He knew that God’s love could weather any feelings and would remain constant. If you’re running from your emotions, it may be because of insecurity. Healthy relationships provide a secure place to run with your feelings – not from them.
  • Don’t rely on emotions.  A long time ago, I remember seeing a drawing of a train with an engine, a fuel car, and a caboose that gave me perspective on my feelings. The engine had the word facts on it. The fuel car was titled faith, and the caboose was labeled feelings. Feelings were a part of the train. Feelings were on the tracks, but they were the caboose and not the engine. If feelings become my engine, then I’m sure to derail. Feelings are an insufficient source of fuel as well. You might run so hot that you run off the tracks, or so cold that you can’t get down the track. It’s our faith that fuels the train based on the facts of God’s promises. Still, feelings follow and provide joy in the journey. Healthy relationships don’t rely on emotions for motion. They understand that, as we walk in faith and obedience, our feelings will follow.
  1. Sam Thigpen says:

    This is a wonderful daily post. It helps all of us understand the healthiest relationships are those that foster openness and honesty so we can express ourself to an earthly confidant just as we can to God. That is absolutely the pinnacle of a healthy relationship. Thank you for a great message this morning.

  2. Utonda Croomes says:

    Wow! I really needed to read this devotional. I was recently divorce and my feelings and emotions were scattered all over . I was an emotional roller coaster. After reading I have learned that I was in an unhealthy relationship. As a result I have had to reorganize my feelings and emotions and place them in the right prospective “JESUS”. To love him with all my heart , mind and soul and he will send me someone who is right for me and I will be rewarded with the healthy relationship I yearn for. Thanks!!

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