What do you say to a friend who turns away from God instead of towards God as a result of hardship and suffering? That happens a lot. Some of the people that I know who are closest to God have gone through a lot of suffering but others have become bitter instead. I always say you can get bitter or better. The difference between bitter and better is just one letter. We have a choice to make. Suffering doesn’t make us more like Christ unless we trust him through it and allow him to mold us.
When we are going through suffering, we should pour our hearts out to God – our anger, our fear, and our frustration. Just tell Him how mad we are at Him. David said, “Trust in him at all times, you people, pour out your heart to him, for God is our refuge.” God knows what is in our hearts anyway, so pour it out to Him. When a friend is bitter and angry at God, I think the best thing to do is just love them. That’s what God is doing. Be there for them, love them, and be Jesus to them. The Bible tells us to “Rejoice with those who rejoice, and mourn with those who mourn.” Rom 12:15.