“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” Mark 12:30-31 (NIV)
Hitting the bullseye of a focused relationship means being all there! Being all there involves:
My affections: “All my heart…”
My emotions: “All my soul…”
My intellect: “All my mind…”
My actions: “All my strength…”
These are the four rings on the target of a focused relationship. The first ring involves our affections – loving with all my heart. The biblical word for heart is “kardia” and represents the core or center of your life. Proverbs 4:23 warns us “Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.” We get to choose the focus of our affections, what we allow in our hearts. Feelings change with whatever we let into our hearts. Our values are like magnets, and our feelings are the metal that is drawn to what you value. That’s why Jesus said, “For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” (Luke 12:34 NLT) When you stop placing value on a relationship, the feelings fade away. If you want to increase the value, give undivided attention and see what happens. Undivided attention shows value. It means being all there, tuning out all the distractions of multitasking and focusing on the one you are relating to. Another way to show value is to give constant appreciation. When we choose to give undivided attention and constant appreciation in our relationship, that loving feeling catches up with our actions. Remember, love is something you do. What can you do today that would demonstrate your love for God and others? How could you show undivided attention and constant appreciation to increase the value of your relationships? Take some loving steps of action and experience the difference of a focused relationship.